Three key goals:
1. Safety for the victim and children
2. Accountability for the abuser
3. Restoration of the relationship (if possible) or mourning over the loss of the relationship
Rev. Marie Fortune – Faith Trust Institute.org
Three key questions to ask:
1. Are you in danger?
2. Has he hit you?
3. What does he do when he gets angry?
Seven things to say:
1. I am really sorry to hear this is happening to you.
2. I am afraid for your safety or I ‘m scared for you.
3. I am afraid for the safety of your children.
4. I am afraid it will only get worse. (say it in a non-blaming way)
5. I will help you find someone who can help.
6. You do not deserve to be treated this way.
7. I will not tell anyone what we discussed.
Sarah Buel, A formally battered woman, is a national expert and trainer on domestic violence.
1. Be a good listener if someone shares their story.
2. Be compassionate and not judgmental.
3. Understand the importance of confidentiality and the risks involved.
4. If their/your church leadership is knowledgeable about domestic abuse issues, suggest they be contacted.
5. Refer them to local resources for help.
6. Pray with them and for them.